This week on Talk Learn Connect, Writer Yvonne Reddin asks Sleep Consultant & Co-Creational Parent and Relationship Mentor, Lucy Wolfe to share some TLC (Talk Learn Connect)
You are well recognised in your field of expertise, how and why did you choose this specific career path?
I came to this career following my own struggles with sleep deprivation with my oldest son who is now nearly 18.
As a new parent, I was disappointed to discover the lack of support in this area but also in the suggested approach of just leaving your baby to cry. This did not sit well with me and as I went on to have more children, I became more aware of the need to change the narrative and provide the level of support that I felt I needed then and so I pursued training, education and experience in order for that to happen.
I am in practice for 10 years now and have authored two books and I feel very privileged to accompany parents on their journey, nurturing their child’s sleep to its best potential in a child-centered and holistic way.
You have stated you are not a fan of tough love, controlled crying and cry-it-out techniques to solve sleep problems in children. These are the longstanding techniques, what are the more current ones?
My own approach is to look at the whole story, acknowledging that there are so many influencing factors. By just addressing one aspect with a cry-intensive technique does not necessarily address the actual issues at play and may also cause unnecessary stress for the family unit.
By taking sleep into relevant segments, by helping parents gain a deeper understanding, by managing expectations that are individually orientated and age-appropriate and by honoring the internal body clock; transitions that can be made when necessary with my stay and support approach.
This replaces the cry-it-out strategies and provides the child with loving comfort, support and co-created confidence. This together will result in the opportunity to gain a higher sleep ability with the partnership of the parent until they feel more safe and secure in the overall context of their sleep.